W.—There is so little information here, but here are some observations.  In custodial disputes and prison circumstances where the concerned parent is in disagreement on treatment it is virtually impossible to be successful with an intervention.  Clearly, even a visit can be highly disruptive and subsequently preoccupy a child that would interfere with treatment.  If the father actually approves a treatment protocol and transfers his credibility and support to you that would be helpful. Is he your brother?  If he is a saboteur, I would be very pessimistic about success.  If the treatment is to be truly successful, it really has to be done in the home by actual hands on intervention, not through “counseling” at school.  My program is your best chance, but it may just be too intense for Grandma and yourself who would have to be involved virtually every day for the Soiling Solutions daily treatment hour.  Can you both assure that degree of commitment?  It would be a real opportunity for “bonding” with the child because you will go through trials and tribulations together toward a common and successful goal of eliminating soiling.  This is a form of tough love and real love.  Parents with diabetic children and insulin shot requirements can face this every day for a lifetime!  A half way and compromising approach simply won’t work and will worsen the complications for the child.